“Am I treating myself like royalty, or am I living like a beggar in my own kingdom?”
Who Exactly Is a Queen?
The word Queen carries centuries of power, elegance, and responsibility—but in today’s world, it transcends crowns and kingdoms. It’s no longer just a title passed down through bloodlines; it’s a birthright of every woman who dares to honor herself.
But let’s ask the question plainly:
What qualifies someone to be a queen?
Is there a rulebook? A checklist? Some unreachable standard?
What Really Makes You a Queen?
A recent survey conducted among people aged 18 to 22 revealed a divide. 50% said every girl is already a queen—it’s simply about how she sees herself. The other half had varying opinions:
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Some said a queen must be strong and confident.
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Others added qualities like being assertive, ambitious, or emotionally intelligent.
So, who’s right?
Here’s the truth:
There is no universal standard. And even if someone tried to set one, we must ask—Who gave them that power?
Being a queen is not about meeting anyone else's checklist.
It’s about reclaiming the right to define yourself, for yourself.
👑 Real-Life Queens Who Inspire
Let’s take a moment to draw inspiration from history and the present. Queens are not myths—they are real women who lived (and live) boldly:
Queen Amina of Zazzau (Zaria)
A fearless warrior princess of the 16th century. She expanded her kingdom through battle, strategy, and leadership at a time when women were expected to stay silent. She didn’t just lead—she ruled.
Kandake Amanirenas of Ethiopia
An empress of Kush who stood her ground against the Roman Empire. One of the few ancient African queens documented in Roman history, she led armies and negotiated peace—on her own terms.
Dora Akunyili
The late Nigerian pharmacist and reformer who changed the face of NAFDAC. She fought corruption, risked her life, and saved millions, all while standing firm in integrity.
Oby Ezekwesili
Former Vice President of the World Bank and co-founder of Transparency International. Known for her courage during the #BringBackOurGirls campaign, she speaks truth to power.
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Global literary icon and feminist. With her voice and pen, she’s reshaping narratives about Africa, womanhood, and freedom.
And Then, There’s You.
Yes—You.
You who rise each day and choose to keep going.
You who love yourself enough to walk away from chaos.
You who demand respect—not through noise, but by the way you carry yourself.
A queen is a girl who holds herself in such high esteem,
that everyone around her has no choice but to give her the courtesy she deserves.
YOU ARE A QUEEN, FIRST.
Let this sink in:
“What you don’t change, you choose.”
If you constantly:
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Treat yourself as less than worthy,
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Live your life at the mercy of others,
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Disrespect your own boundaries,
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Refuse to prioritize your own needs—
Then the world will simply mirror that.
Why?
Because people treat you how you treat yourself.
✨ Your Worth Sets the Standard
Your self-respect isn’t just a personal trait—it’s a template for how others relate to you.
You’re not selfish for choosing yourself.
You’re not arrogant for setting standards.
You’re a queen—so act like one.
Final Note: Wear Your Crown Boldly
Every time you:
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Walk away from toxic energy,
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Say “no” when it compromises your peace,
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Speak up when silence would hurt you,
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Chase a dream others laugh at—
You’re doing the most queenly thing ever.
So today, pause and ask yourself:
“Am I treating myself like royalty, or am I living like a beggar in my own kingdom?”
You don’t need a throne to prove anything.
You just need to stand tall, set your crown straight,
and own your story.
Because you are a queen.
And queens never forget who they are.
